The past 18 months have been the roughest time for me. I started my new job and priorities shifted. The ideas that I had for my family flew right out the door. Chaos struck our lives. Granit, we had more money, but I ask, "is it worth it?". My husband was stressed, I was depressed, my kids we behaving erratically and MY FAMILY was missing in action!
I missed FIRSTS! I cry at the thought of it! Is that me being selfish or just a loving parent? Jhia's first day of school missed for training. I observed through pictures. Jhak's first day of pre-k also viewed through pictures. For those of you that know me. That is NEVER what I wanted as a parent. I am hands on and completely involved. I missed parties, races, baseball games, dancing, masses and school programs and much more!
New years eve 2011 I spent in a tower ringing in the new year ALONE....crying. This is not the life for me. Only having this JOB for 4 months at that time....I KNEW I was not cut out for this.
This Christmas 2o12 was the first time I missed Christmas Eve at my husbands Grandmas in 13 years we have been together. That was it! I vowed to myself that I would not be at this profession very much longer. I WOULD NOT MISS ANOTHER SPECIAL EVENT!
It's March 20th, 2012, Iam happy to state that I officially put my 2 week notice in following my 6 week medical leave. Being home for the previous 6 weeks did it! Less stress around the home. I was actually having more patience and smiling, kids were happy and still being ornery but the feeling at home was much more enjoyable. My husband even though he hates to admit it was happier and able to focus on his business instead of juggling everything alone.
Things won't be easy I know life is not a piece of cake BUT I can do without the extras but I can't do without my family. Faith in the Lord our GOD, in my husband, in myself, and in my kids is all I need! Oh, and Love! I got this!
God bless!
Amanda <3
Mandy, I know exactly what you mean. The money's never worth missing all of the "firsts" it's just not. If it matters I think you made the right choice for you. I wouldn't trade staying home with these kids for anything. The money can come later. I cherish every single "first" that I have been able to see with my own eyes. Children are truly a blessing from God and they grow up and are leave our homes so quickly. Why not frolic in their childhood? They'll remember and so will you. Memories are what life's all about. I am so happy for you!
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